A few weeks ago, I was having lunch with Mags, and I blurted out "well, whatever, I guess it wasn't meant to be--everything always happens for a reason."
Mags and I discussed this--as she had said the same thing to our friend Lizzie a few nights prior. Her husband, who I guess overheard said something like, "men so don't go by that philosophy, if something doesn't work out, shit happens, we don't agonize if it was meant to be or not. And if it works out, we just got lucky."
This got me thinking.....do things happen for a reason, or is that a nice fall-back excuse that women like to give to themselves when things aren't working out?
If you don't get a follow-up date with a guy--it wasn't meant to be. If the job interview doesn't work out-wasn't meant to be. Is Fate really working in our favor, or is it just something we tell ourselves so that the sting doesn't hurt quite so much?
While I'm not sure if things do or don't happen because they are or aren't meant to be, I do think things happen for a reason. This is basic science--where there is a cause, there is an effect.
I honestly believe I met Al as a cause and effect. I was supposed to go see my ex-boyfriend that weekend (who I was still seeing--although I believe he was seeing someone else at this point, so who really knows). I got in a fight with my ex, and my friend Shannon (who was in town visiting) had made plans to go with Michelle to Kings Dominion with some of Michelle's coworkers Clay and Jerry, and Clay's roomate---who turned out to be Al. Since I was down in the dumps that my plans to see the ex fell through, I got invited along for the day with Shannon and Michelle--which is when I met Al. I literally called my mom the next day and told her I met the man I was going to marry....of course, we didn't start dating until 2 1/2 year later, but I digress. Who's to say that if I had met Al at ANY other time, that I would've given him the same attention, and thought of him as a possibility?
Anyway...those are my philosophical thoughts today.
Let me know yours.
Friday, May 27, 2005
Monday, May 23, 2005
Bookends
“Long ago it must be, I have a photograph....preserve your memories, they're all that's left you” -Simon & Garfunkel, Bookends
My best friend Maggie just got married this past weekend. I was the matron of honor, and it was truly a beautiful wedding--and my first outdoor wedding too!
Leading up to the wedding.....Friday night, there was a rehearsal dinner at Alexander's in Roanoke. Andy's brother Chris, and sister Margaret "Julianne" Moore put together a film documenting the life of Andy and Maggie. Of course, yours truly got all weepy during the movie--I can't help it, I've known Maggie since I was 2, and she's the closest thing I have to a sister, so it got me a little choked up--it's the end of an era, and the beginning of another. Goodbye to those little girls with pigtails...and hello to new adventures...being wives, owning homes, growing up. I can only hope was have many more years of memories down the road.
Afterwards, the crew headed to Awful Arthurs, which lived up to it's name. I swear, doesn't Roanoke have any decent bars??? And no, Corned Beef & Co does NOT count....I only frequent there because I know I'll run into someone I know.
Saturday, we went to the salon--gossiped about celebs while having our hair done. Then, off to the Meyer house to get ready. The ceremony was lovely, and I maintained the standing position, which was a great success.
The weather held out--and the sun shined down for the ceremony and reception. Durring dinner, the groomsmen went in search of the buried Maker's Mark to toast the weather gods for making it such a beautiful day.
Dinner included shrimp and grits--my personal favorite! Yum. After dinner--we did toasts, and I actually made it through WITHOUT crying. Thank you very much. Then..the band got up to play, and congratulated "Maggie and JOE, and their new marriage". I'm not sure who this Joe character is, but the band kept congratulating him and Maggie all night long. The funniest thing is, Andy was the one who had HIRED the band!
Several drinks later, the bridemaids rallied, and took our show on the road, and got up on stage to sing Johnny Cash's Ring of Fire. Johnny must have turned in his grave, it was so out of tune...
It was a momentous weekend, so here's to you Maggie and Joe, may you have many years of happiness......
My best friend Maggie just got married this past weekend. I was the matron of honor, and it was truly a beautiful wedding--and my first outdoor wedding too!
Leading up to the wedding.....Friday night, there was a rehearsal dinner at Alexander's in Roanoke. Andy's brother Chris, and sister Margaret "Julianne" Moore put together a film documenting the life of Andy and Maggie. Of course, yours truly got all weepy during the movie--I can't help it, I've known Maggie since I was 2, and she's the closest thing I have to a sister, so it got me a little choked up--it's the end of an era, and the beginning of another. Goodbye to those little girls with pigtails...and hello to new adventures...being wives, owning homes, growing up. I can only hope was have many more years of memories down the road.
Afterwards, the crew headed to Awful Arthurs, which lived up to it's name. I swear, doesn't Roanoke have any decent bars??? And no, Corned Beef & Co does NOT count....I only frequent there because I know I'll run into someone I know.
Saturday, we went to the salon--gossiped about celebs while having our hair done. Then, off to the Meyer house to get ready. The ceremony was lovely, and I maintained the standing position, which was a great success.
The weather held out--and the sun shined down for the ceremony and reception. Durring dinner, the groomsmen went in search of the buried Maker's Mark to toast the weather gods for making it such a beautiful day.
Dinner included shrimp and grits--my personal favorite! Yum. After dinner--we did toasts, and I actually made it through WITHOUT crying. Thank you very much. Then..the band got up to play, and congratulated "Maggie and JOE, and their new marriage". I'm not sure who this Joe character is, but the band kept congratulating him and Maggie all night long. The funniest thing is, Andy was the one who had HIRED the band!
Several drinks later, the bridemaids rallied, and took our show on the road, and got up on stage to sing Johnny Cash's Ring of Fire. Johnny must have turned in his grave, it was so out of tune...
It was a momentous weekend, so here's to you Maggie and Joe, may you have many years of happiness......
Wednesday, May 18, 2005
50 Things About Me...You May or May Not Know
1. I am a PADI Advanced Open Water Scuba Diver
2. My favorite soft drink is Diet Cherry Coke
3. I was born on the bicentenial, even though I can't spell it.
4. If there was ever a movie about me, I would want Keri Russell to play me.
5. I believe in ghosts, and have gone on 5 ghost tours.
6. I was an extra in Dirty Dancing, and got to meet Jennifer Gray and Patrick Swayze.
7. My second and third toe on each foot are slightly webbed together--I used to think they were freakish, now I think they are cute.
8. My maternal grandma and David Broder are first cousins.
9. When I was little, I fell out of a moving car.
10. Swimming is one of my favorite things in the world.
11. I used to write poetry under the pen name Moon Lawerence.
12. I hate cheesecake. It doesn't matter who makes it, or what's on it.
13. I eat bagels with butter instead of cream cheese.
14. I studied in England and Scotland for a summer. If I could, I would move to London.
15. I am a Libra, and while I can see both sides of the story, once I have an opinion, I stick with it.
16. I have known my best friend since I was 2 years old.
17. The day after I met Al, I called my mom and told her I had met my future husband. I was even seeing someone else at that time.
18. I often have premonitions that come true (see above).
19. My paternal grandparents are Holocaust survivors. I went to Dachau, which is one of the camps my grandma was in.
20. My one desire is to write a children's book.
21. Golden Retrievers are my favorite type of dog.
22. I own all of the Harry Potter books and movies, and have the next book that's due out this summer on pre-order. I have also read each book twice.
23. I love bluegrass music, British pop music, and 80's music. I also have a love for anything that's just unique and tells a great story.
24. I could feel my house shake on September 11, when the plane crashed into the Pentagon.
25. I have taken a cake decorating class. Al's cakes were prettier than mine.
26. I drank too much wine at my cousin's wedding and passed out---I was a bridesmaid in the wedding.
27. When I was little, I wrote a letter to Judy Blume. She even wrote me back.
28. I really love super-hero movies, and the Star Wars movies.
29. I love vinegar on my fries. Is there any other way?
30. I know the Greek and Hebrew alphabets.
31. I think that the word poop is funny.
32. I am extremely superstitious.
33. I once went to an S&M club with my girlfriends.
34. I believe in reincarnation and karma.
35. I don't like getting roses--I used to, but I'm over it.
36. The one dish I make well is eggplant parmesan.
37. The first concert was a Neil Diamond concert.
38. Sometimes, when I clean, I like to wear a tiarra, and pretend I'm a princess who has been forced to clean.
39. I totally bombed the SATs when I was in high school.
40. I am part of Toastmasters International-and have completed the Competant Level of Toastmasters.
41. I am allergic to red wine.
42. I have taken the following hobby classes, but have mastered none of these: photography, pottery, kayaking, and rock wall climbing.
43. I didn't really like college or my sorority.
44. I know the words to almost every song in Fiddler on the Roof.
45. My belly-button is pierced.
46. One of my favorite smells is right after it has rained on a warm day.
47. I am afraid of heights, but love to challenge my fear.
48. On single every trip I take--via plane, train, automobile, I always sing "We're Off to See the Wizard" from Wizard of Oz. My mom and brother do this as well.
49. I used to be on a kickball team.
50. I have a slight obsession with Sting.
2. My favorite soft drink is Diet Cherry Coke
3. I was born on the bicentenial, even though I can't spell it.
4. If there was ever a movie about me, I would want Keri Russell to play me.
5. I believe in ghosts, and have gone on 5 ghost tours.
6. I was an extra in Dirty Dancing, and got to meet Jennifer Gray and Patrick Swayze.
7. My second and third toe on each foot are slightly webbed together--I used to think they were freakish, now I think they are cute.
8. My maternal grandma and David Broder are first cousins.
9. When I was little, I fell out of a moving car.
10. Swimming is one of my favorite things in the world.
11. I used to write poetry under the pen name Moon Lawerence.
12. I hate cheesecake. It doesn't matter who makes it, or what's on it.
13. I eat bagels with butter instead of cream cheese.
14. I studied in England and Scotland for a summer. If I could, I would move to London.
15. I am a Libra, and while I can see both sides of the story, once I have an opinion, I stick with it.
16. I have known my best friend since I was 2 years old.
17. The day after I met Al, I called my mom and told her I had met my future husband. I was even seeing someone else at that time.
18. I often have premonitions that come true (see above).
19. My paternal grandparents are Holocaust survivors. I went to Dachau, which is one of the camps my grandma was in.
20. My one desire is to write a children's book.
21. Golden Retrievers are my favorite type of dog.
22. I own all of the Harry Potter books and movies, and have the next book that's due out this summer on pre-order. I have also read each book twice.
23. I love bluegrass music, British pop music, and 80's music. I also have a love for anything that's just unique and tells a great story.
24. I could feel my house shake on September 11, when the plane crashed into the Pentagon.
25. I have taken a cake decorating class. Al's cakes were prettier than mine.
26. I drank too much wine at my cousin's wedding and passed out---I was a bridesmaid in the wedding.
27. When I was little, I wrote a letter to Judy Blume. She even wrote me back.
28. I really love super-hero movies, and the Star Wars movies.
29. I love vinegar on my fries. Is there any other way?
30. I know the Greek and Hebrew alphabets.
31. I think that the word poop is funny.
32. I am extremely superstitious.
33. I once went to an S&M club with my girlfriends.
34. I believe in reincarnation and karma.
35. I don't like getting roses--I used to, but I'm over it.
36. The one dish I make well is eggplant parmesan.
37. The first concert was a Neil Diamond concert.
38. Sometimes, when I clean, I like to wear a tiarra, and pretend I'm a princess who has been forced to clean.
39. I totally bombed the SATs when I was in high school.
40. I am part of Toastmasters International-and have completed the Competant Level of Toastmasters.
41. I am allergic to red wine.
42. I have taken the following hobby classes, but have mastered none of these: photography, pottery, kayaking, and rock wall climbing.
43. I didn't really like college or my sorority.
44. I know the words to almost every song in Fiddler on the Roof.
45. My belly-button is pierced.
46. One of my favorite smells is right after it has rained on a warm day.
47. I am afraid of heights, but love to challenge my fear.
48. On single every trip I take--via plane, train, automobile, I always sing "We're Off to See the Wizard" from Wizard of Oz. My mom and brother do this as well.
49. I used to be on a kickball team.
50. I have a slight obsession with Sting.
Thursday, May 12, 2005
Just Another Day in DC
Confused Fliers Trigger Capital Scare-http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2005/05/11/AR2005051100887.html
Is it sad that we are becoming accustomed to terrorist threats? Just yesterday, I was sitting at work, and an e-mail came across my screen "WHITE HOUSE AND CAPITOL EVACUATED!"
As I sat there, I heard people contiuing to type, and not a lot of commotion around me. I thought to myself, "self, there must not be anything wrong if noone is panicking or screaming."
I think it's just sad that this mentality has become so ingrained in us in just a few short years. 3 years ago, everyone would have freaked out with an e-mail like this on their screen, and now, it's just business as usual in DC.
When did reality start becoming so real?
Is it sad that we are becoming accustomed to terrorist threats? Just yesterday, I was sitting at work, and an e-mail came across my screen "WHITE HOUSE AND CAPITOL EVACUATED!"
As I sat there, I heard people contiuing to type, and not a lot of commotion around me. I thought to myself, "self, there must not be anything wrong if noone is panicking or screaming."
I think it's just sad that this mentality has become so ingrained in us in just a few short years. 3 years ago, everyone would have freaked out with an e-mail like this on their screen, and now, it's just business as usual in DC.
When did reality start becoming so real?
Monday, May 09, 2005
Eye of the Tiger
Posted by Hello
I've been using the bike--although, I have to admit, I'm not the most graceful person on a bike, but I'm still having fun. Al got a bike this weekend, so on Sunday, we biked into Georgetown and got a bite to eat, and walked around to the different stores. What a beautiful day.
So, in addition to biking, I was motivated by my hubby's new 6 pack to start doing some sit ups in the mornings. At first, I could only do 2. I'm not even joking. 2. How sad is that?
Now, I'm up to 60. The stomach is starting to feel a bit tighter, and so now I've added pushups to the daily routine. I can do about 10 girly ones right now, but that's okay.
I'm kinda getting into the being in shape thing. Makes me want to actually work out a bit. Or not.
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